The Man With Many Wives

I am still trying to wrap my head around the idea of a man claiming or insisting that he loves all his wives. Equally. But I just don’t see how that’s possible. I also can’t phantom why a woman would want to share her husband, instead of being the “apple of his eye.”

What makes it OK to have more than one wife? Religion? I guess that makes sin/sinning OK, since Adam & Eve ate the apple from the tree. NO! Polygamy, to me, seems like another way for men to be superior. To be controlling. In my opinion, polygamy is selfishness.

In most cases, having several wives under one roof rarely works out. It promotes hate, envy, bickering, and malice, amongst other things, while the husband sits back and have them settle their differences. The wives are forced to deal and live with it. How does this benefit the kids? Growing up in such a hostile environment?

I wonder if the women know going into the marriage that their husbands will end up seeking to marry more wives, or they find out after the fact. Regardless, it can’t be jolly news to the ears. I’m ***uming that some women stick it out because they want to stay married, because the husband is their provider, because they are inlove, because of the kids, or due to the fact that they think they have no choice…perhaps because of religious or cultural beliefs.

It is a rather disturbing and provoking thought.

What makes a man seek for the comfort of another woman besides his wife? Doesn’t it become a chore to (sexually) satisfy all women? I feel like I could hear the male readers going, rhythmically, “Nooooooooo”. Did I just set myself up with that question?

Frankly ladies, can you imagine not going to bed with the man you love whenever you wish? Not having the choice to choose what night you want to cuddle and sleep with your husband? Better yet, dealing with listening to him and the other wife, as they get intimate in the room next to yours? WTF? I don’t care how religious or cultured you are. That can’t be pleasant or easy to deal with.

Now if the tables were turned, and women were allowed to marry more than one husband; how will this pan out? Personally, I think a man’s level of envy in terms of infidelity is far greater and stronger than a woman’s. Men are unforgiving when it comes to matter of the heart, while women are more tender-hearted and inclined to give second chances.

God bless these wives. Especially the first wives. I’m sure they feel cheated, intimidated, jealous, and misplaced. Or do they? Because I’m sure the more wives brought in, I’m guessing the younger they are. Which makes me wonder if amongst the wives, the first wife has the ultimate say in decision-making, has the upper hand, and over-sees the rest of the wives. Or is it the “baby” wife that rules?

In relation to modern day, modern women, would you allow your husband another wife? Even if your religion and culture permits. Would you stay in such relationship? If so, why?

Photo Credits:

“Say No To Polygamy” ABC News, http://www.abc.net.au
“Big Love pic” http://www.smh.com.au/…/2008/08/22/1219262513587.html
“African Pic” http://village.africanpath.com/